would you date somebody with a disability? | Forum
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Moderator billyHill
Oct 19 '16
Gosh Marisa, I'd have to ask if you are talking about physical disabilities or mental ones or both? 
I have some physical limitations, but I hate to call them disabilities because they don't really disable me. I just have to find other ways to do some things that others can do in different ways.
As far as anything else goes with another person and which are too much. That would ultimately depend on the person, what I expect from them, and how they treat themselves and others. I'm not one to enjoy the company of a whiner telling me what they can or can't do all the time. But on the flip side of the same coin if that person is disabled somehow and is not whining just stating facts, then I am all ears to the story of experience.
I have some physical limitations, but I hate to call them disabilities because they don't really disable me. I just have to find other ways to do some things that others can do in different ways.
As far as anything else goes with another person and which are too much. That would ultimately depend on the person, what I expect from them, and how they treat themselves and others. I'm not one to enjoy the company of a whiner telling me what they can or can't do all the time. But on the flip side of the same coin if that person is disabled somehow and is not whining just stating facts, then I am all ears to the story of experience.
forgottenone
Nov 25 '16
i believe a disability is not a reason to not want a person.i think that if they can relate toeachother a disability will not make a difference they will simply work with it and arround it to reach what they desire
adventurer55
Dec 29 '16
Sure, we all have disabilities, some visible, some hidden deep in the psyche. At least, the ones you can see are not going to surprise you later in the relationship. And after a while, you get used to them, and don't even notice them--if you love the person!
But the the hidden ones are the relationship killers! Some people are sooooo nice and sweet for the first few weeks...and then.....up jumps the devil! Those are the serious disabilities, the emotional and mental ones.
gustavog2
Jan 26 '17
why not? we all humans, people with disabilities are not monsters or from another planet
Lytharia
Feb 11 '17
I think with all things, it is what do you consider a disability? Like adventurer55 stated, not all disabilities are visible. That goes for physical, mental and emotional. I don't see any of those being a barrier as long as we get along and love one another. Again, the ying-yang of it all ... does the one compliment the other or can they figure out how to do things together with the same disabilities? I have not met one perfect person yet. Everyone has "disabilities" something that has damaged them physically, mentally or emotionally in life. My question, along with any other quirk, nuance or difference, is it something you can deal with? That person may not be perfect, but are they perfect for you. That is all that matters.
Willi
Jan 13 '18
Sure, I would not see any problem, if my partner tuned out to have a physical limitation. In my opinion metal problems can be much more debilitating and usually lay hidden for considerable time. As long as she has a good personlity, nothing cannot be conquered. After all nobody ever is perfect, and even angels will become shopworn after some time...
alans234
Feb 18 '18
I myself wouldn't have a problem dating someone with a disability as long as they loved me back
Admin Marisa
Mar 5 '18
Everybody says they would. And what about a person in a wheelchair? We have a few members in a wheelchair here, and nobody writes to them. So, I suspect a sort of insincerity.... 
Admin Marisa
Mar 10 '18
yes, but then maybe people should specify which disability they are talking about? Especially since the original question says: "which disability is okay and which is too much for you?"
Would you date a legally blind person? Would you date a person in a wheelchair? Will you date somebody with a cerebral palsy? The respondents should elaborate.
Otherwise, the simple answers "yes, I would" sound like ppl just want to get some credits, to be able to mass-mail the HEALTHY members, lol.
Josey23
Aug 29 '18
Marisa, My Frenchman is in a wheelchair.He is a paraplegic from the age of 19, and he is 54 now. When I met him on a traveling blog, and he told me of his skiing accident in the Swiss Alps. He has a full time job as a graphic designer, drives, travels , and has his own apartment. He has no caregiver because he is able to do pretty much anything!!! I love him, and I don;t even see the chair. I have been to France and he has been to see me. He is coming back in January... We are traveling the US, and Europe together... Yes, if you love the person a physical disability is no problem...
Moderator billyHill
Jan 19 '19
Princeton, if you believe you have different answers for any of the 3 "types" you listed, then why don't you list them all instead of asking which one(s)??
If you read the entire topic I've asked a very similar question and did not get a response, therefore it is highly likely you will not get an answer either.
