Would like a review on my profile | Forum
Admin Marisa
May 7 '16
your profile is okay, I don't see anything wrong with it.
Honestly, I can tell you that since this is not a huge site with millions of members, the success here solely depends on these 3 things:
1) if you have a pic on your profile (you do, so you are fine).
2) if you are often online (because members usually contact those whom they see online).
3) if you actively contact other members (not wait for others to contact you).
Workenman27
May 7 '16
Thank you for the respnse. I have found it hard to find people that actually responded when the are online
Admin Marisa
May 7 '16
maybe they just keep their browser opened with our page on, but not actually ON the site. You know how people have several browser windows opened... Or maybe they are just too far away, or don't speak English. Since the site is small, it is hard to find somebody local, but don't give up and keep contacting. 
Moderator billyHill
May 8 '16
From a guy who could care less about dating you...... 
First and foremost I need to say I agree with Marisa on almost everything..... except what I put below.
mind you, this is constructive commenting, not destructive.
Maybe you could include other activities you like? Movies aren't the only life you have, are they?? (boating, motorcycles, rodeos, horses), whatever it may be, tell them.
mention children's ages / genders maybe? how much if any contact do you have with them?
I think those items I mentioned are stuff women tend to care about.
If you want some more ideas ( and don't want to be seen as a guy showing up on other guy's profiles), then log out and look at some other profiles to get some ideas.
Try to look at your profile as a sort of "job interview", but instead of money and the security of a job this one is trying to get a partner.
Hope this helps.
First and foremost I need to say I agree with Marisa on almost everything..... except what I put below.
mind you, this is constructive commenting, not destructive.
Maybe you could include other activities you like? Movies aren't the only life you have, are they?? (boating, motorcycles, rodeos, horses), whatever it may be, tell them.
mention children's ages / genders maybe? how much if any contact do you have with them?
I think those items I mentioned are stuff women tend to care about.
If you want some more ideas ( and don't want to be seen as a guy showing up on other guy's profiles), then log out and look at some other profiles to get some ideas.
Try to look at your profile as a sort of "job interview", but instead of money and the security of a job this one is trying to get a partner.
Hope this helps.
Workenman27
May 8 '16
Billy can you go into deeper details about what you mean about the whole guy thing... And thank you for not being a guy that would want to date me considering that I'm a straight male....
Moderator billyHill
May 9 '16
I'm going to guess at what you mean by "guy thing". If I am wrong, please correct me.
Did you notice when you logged on today I had viewed your profile? the last 4 or 5 visits to your profile are there on your dashboard when you log in. Maybe you've had enough others and I did not show up.
If you are logged in when you visit someone's profile, it shows up on their dashboard, too. So I suggested you log out, then do a search for guys, and see what is on their profiles so you get some other ideas for what to add into yours. Is that the details you were looking for??
btw, my wife would be real upset at me if I was to consider dating such a young'un.... I don't care how much time you spent on that side of the fence, you chest isn't really big enough for me
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Did you notice when you logged on today I had viewed your profile? the last 4 or 5 visits to your profile are there on your dashboard when you log in. Maybe you've had enough others and I did not show up.
If you are logged in when you visit someone's profile, it shows up on their dashboard, too. So I suggested you log out, then do a search for guys, and see what is on their profiles so you get some other ideas for what to add into yours. Is that the details you were looking for??
btw, my wife would be real upset at me if I was to consider dating such a young'un.... I don't care how much time you spent on that side of the fence, you chest isn't really big enough for me
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Admin Marisa
May 9 '16
So I suggested you log out, then do a search for guys, and see what is on their profiles so you get some other ideas for what to add into yours.and?? what good does it do to those "other guys"? Do you think anybody reads it? writes to them? Nah... I've seen perfectly crafted profiles, with lots of interesting info, people spend time working on their profiles, finally put them up, log out, sit back and wait for somebody to contact them... and don't get a single response!! except from Latin American visa seekers, who don't read those profiles anyway, because they don't understand a word there.
For a reason our questionnaire is short. Nobody reads it anyway. People go by pic, age and location. The only way to find somebody is by actively contact people. Sending at least few messages DAILY.
Just trying to be honest.
Moderator billyHill
May 9 '16
Hey Marisa, ( Boss Lady).... you have your opinions, and I have mine. That doesn't make mine wrong or yours right.... right??
I did say I agreed with almost everything you said, except for the essay portion. Activity searching and a picture ( or lots of pictures) are the main ingredients, no doubt.
if anyone just thinks they can create a profile and wait for the world to contact them, then they don't live in the real world.
(Scammers can do that because of the fake pictures they use).
We love your honesty, Marisa..... That is one of the big reasons I've been here on the site with you for ten years or so now. And the fact that you didn't force me to leave after I got married probably has something to do with it, too 
I did say I agreed with almost everything you said, except for the essay portion. Activity searching and a picture ( or lots of pictures) are the main ingredients, no doubt.
if anyone just thinks they can create a profile and wait for the world to contact them, then they don't live in the real world.
(Scammers can do that because of the fake pictures they use).
I've seen perfectly crafted profiles, with lots of interesting info, people spend time working on their profiles, finally put them up, log out, sit back and wait for somebody to contact them...
For a reason our questionnaire is short. Nobody reads it anyway. People go by pic, age and location. The only way to find somebody is by actively contact people. Sending at least few messages DAILY.
Just trying to be honest.
We love your honesty, Marisa..... That is one of the big reasons I've been here on the site with you for ten years or so now
. And the fact that you didn't force me to leave after I got married probably has something to do with it, too The Forum post is edited by billyHill May 9 '16
Workenman27
May 9 '16
I'm pretty serious about my searching and I do think you have a valuable point... Not really looking for a granny as you say but that was the only picture I could get to upload when I created my profile.... I will be changing it now... Thanks for the constructive criticism
Moderator spectrumAU
May 10 '16
I agree with most of what has been said previously. But I'd like to point out that it's not a good idea to post pics of children. While I know you love and are proud of your kids there are just too many people these days who will take advantage of a child pic. Obviously these can be shared later by email when you trust whoever it is you're in contact with.
I like Billy's idea of the 'job interview'. Your profile does need a little more info to raise interest, think about what you would like to read in someone's profile. As Marisa said your pic is THE most important but follow that up with a little more detail about yourself, likes, dislikes, hobbies etc. That said, don't write your life story. We don't want to bore readers either
Moderator billyHill
Dec 24 '16
500,
If I were you I would add in the bit about French being your native or best written language in your personal description narrative if that is true. Little mistakes in English can take the meaning of a word and make it completely the opposite if you mess up one little letter. I even use spell check and often I find after re-reading something I've used the wrong word, but it IS a word so the spell checker never caught it as a mistake.
While it is difficult to refrain from using the word "I" in describing yourself, I'd suggest you visit a few other profiles and see if they also use the word "i" as often as you do in their self description. To me it seems excessive and that can translate into someone else viewing you as a real self centered ( egocentric) guy.
next, seriously, you are 63 years old and still want (more) children?? wow. That is a big pill for most people of your age group to swallow. Or even be physically able to accomplish, or have the desire to have a father where the child's father will be in excess of 80 years old when the child completes high school. That is my opinion, but I'd bet I am not the only one in the world that has that opinion.
looking for a woman half your age likely gets you classified as a "dirty old man" more than anything else. I'm not saying you can't ask for what you want. I'm saying I don't know too many people willing to get involved with someone twice their age in a romantic way.
All I can say other than what I've said above is to keep writing to people. Here on this site you are dealing with real people, not scammers that view a letter as an invitation to steal your money from you. There are visa seekers, who want nothing more than a visa to the USA, but you have to decide for yourself if you are dealing with one of those after you regularly communicate with someone.
I'm real comfortable in saying you are probably much more used to being on a dating site filled with scammers and very used to the way they all flock to the "new meat" on the site. This is not that kind of site at all.
To sum it up, to me it seems like you are asking for a rare woman that is willing to date a guy twice her age and have his child as well. I don't know if that is common in any other areas of the world but it is highly uncommon here in the USA. Most people in their 60's are looking forward to grandchildren (if they don't already have them), not children. If I misunderstood what I thought I read in your profile, please tell me.
If I were you I would add in the bit about French being your native or best written language in your personal description narrative if that is true. Little mistakes in English can take the meaning of a word and make it completely the opposite if you mess up one little letter. I even use spell check and often I find after re-reading something I've used the wrong word, but it IS a word so the spell checker never caught it as a mistake.
While it is difficult to refrain from using the word "I" in describing yourself, I'd suggest you visit a few other profiles and see if they also use the word "i" as often as you do in their self description. To me it seems excessive and that can translate into someone else viewing you as a real self centered ( egocentric) guy.
next, seriously, you are 63 years old and still want (more) children?? wow. That is a big pill for most people of your age group to swallow. Or even be physically able to accomplish, or have the desire to have a father where the child's father will be in excess of 80 years old when the child completes high school. That is my opinion, but I'd bet I am not the only one in the world that has that opinion.
looking for a woman half your age likely gets you classified as a "dirty old man" more than anything else. I'm not saying you can't ask for what you want. I'm saying I don't know too many people willing to get involved with someone twice their age in a romantic way.
All I can say other than what I've said above is to keep writing to people. Here on this site you are dealing with real people, not scammers that view a letter as an invitation to steal your money from you. There are visa seekers, who want nothing more than a visa to the USA, but you have to decide for yourself if you are dealing with one of those after you regularly communicate with someone.
I'm real comfortable in saying you are probably much more used to being on a dating site filled with scammers and very used to the way they all flock to the "new meat" on the site. This is not that kind of site at all.
To sum it up, to me it seems like you are asking for a rare woman that is willing to date a guy twice her age and have his child as well. I don't know if that is common in any other areas of the world but it is highly uncommon here in the USA. Most people in their 60's are looking forward to grandchildren (if they don't already have them), not children. If I misunderstood what I thought I read in your profile, please tell me.
The Forum post is edited by billyHill Dec 24 '16
Moderator spectrumAU
Dec 24 '16
I agree with Billy although I see you have altered your profile since then.
Now I would suggest that you add something about the type of lady you would like to meet eg. someone who would like to travel or interested in certain sports or hobbies etc.
Moderator spectrumAU
Dec 23 '17
Murray, I would suggest you include any hobbies or sports that you enjoy, either physical or as a spectator. Is there anything that you'd particularly like to share with a partner or perhaps something new that you'd like to learn. Any little bit of information that could be a conversation starter.
You don't need to write a life story, hold some things back for later conversation, but at the same time share enough to get that conversation started.
Moderator billyHill
Dec 23 '17
does the age range of your partner show up while you are editing? I see 19-86 listed and that is a reasonably large age range to be looking for....
other than that I think if it were me I'd add in a little more about what your match would be like. I think "...knows what she want in her partner..." is far from the only criteria I'd list. (who shares similar interests or at least is open minded to share my life, stuff like that..... but that is me and how I would do it).
other than that I think if it were me I'd add in a little more about what your match would be like. I think "...knows what she want in her partner..." is far from the only criteria I'd list. (who shares similar interests or at least is open minded to share my life, stuff like that..... but that is me and how I would do it).
Moderator billyHill
Dec 24 '17
those darn mods can take 4ever sometimes.......
it is generally about a day or less to be re-approved.
it is generally about a day or less to be re-approved.
