Hi and welcome to DnM, John. Good move on your part posting in English here in the English forum.
There is another forum for different languages located here if you prefer: https://datingnmore.com/site/forum/31
The general way of looking for friends is to use the search or members
buttons, enter in the
criteria you are looking for then see what the results of the search
are. if something does appear in the results then visit the profile(s)
and send some type of "notice me" such as a virtual gift or even a
Private Message (PM) if you like what you see in their profile. Since we
don't have scammers here (or at least nearly zero) you will be likely
to find that there are not dozens or hundreds of screen names going
after you like dogs to fresh meat. You will be better off finding people
yourself as opposed to waiting for someone to contact you.
in between searches or waiting for answers you can ask and
answer poll questions, join or create group(s). Upload, vote on, comment
on videos and pictures, participate in the forums, and probably more
stuff than that too. Many of those things I mentioned also earn you site
credits to use for sending gifts, PM's, and other stuff here on the
site.
The FAQ's are located at the bottom of every page, and if you have a
question about the site the FAQ's don't answer there is a help forum https://datingnmore.com/site/forum/28
as
well. if you still can't find your answer please post the question in
the help forum. chances are good you are not the only one with that
question so you are helping everyone by posting your question. or ask
one of the staff if it is more personal and you
don't want the public to know about it.
good luck and have fun here.