Is it harder for Seniors to make a dating connection? | Forum

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At 73, I'm not looking to remarry, but it would be nice to have friends my own age with whom I share interests. If the friendship blossoms into something special I can handle that too. So far my experience hasn't been that great... widowed for ten years I find that most of the senior men I have met are clearly looking for a hook up. I never was desperate enough for that a young woman... and that hasn't changed with age. What do you all think about this?

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billyHill Nov 4 '17

sounds very logical and a well thought out plan, sdt. stick to your goals and you'll be OK.

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spectrumAU Nov 5 '17

Absolutely agree, men and women generally speaking, look for different things (even if they say otherwise). The male libido is strong at any age while women can take it or leave it.

Don't anybody come back and argue that as it is fact and of course there are exceptions to every rule.

Friendships can mean different things to different people, we all have certain expectations. I have been contacted by many in their 20's (not just this site), for some reason they expect older women to be desperate... or they're looking for a mother figure. That attitude seems to extend through to the 40's as well.

So the search continues as we sieve through the options. Good luck.

Actually it would be interesting to hear from the male point of view, and be honest... please.

servicedogtrainer Nov 16 '17

I, too, would like to hear the male point of view. I must admit I am leery of men my age who talk of wanting to marry. My first reaction is to assume they want someone to take care of them. The second is questioning their motives as to their physical health and emotional stability. To be honest, after losing a husband of 22 years to congestive heart failure I wonder whether I would be able to take the risk to love again that deeply. I guess I have more questions than answers, but, I'm certainly not closed to listening to the opinions of others.

servicedogtrainer Nov 18 '17

Classy, you hit it right on the head. The dating sites are full of people with hidden agendas. About 5 years ago I was hit hard by a scammer on match.com. I'm among the fortunate in that it didn't cost me any real money. Actually I found this site through romancescam.com and have referred others in similar situations to rs (one just recently). Even if they are not traditional scammers they are looking for something other than an honest friendship that just might blossom (if they pull their head out of their trouser leg).

I'm not looking for the perfect guy, just the one who's perfect for me. I am capable of running my own life and require that my friends be the same. Perhaps all my years of dog training have simplified my outlook on life. These days I Bark Less and Wag More. I'm sure there are a few "keepers" out there who do the same and I'm patient enough to wait and see what happens.

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