How to develop strong relationship | Forum
Moderator billyHill
Dec 2 '16
Hi adille, Maybe I don't understand your question. But I am under the impression the reason to date someone is to build a stronger relationship. Like noeleena says, trust is the way to build that relationship. Trust is earned, not given. If they say they will be at a certain place at a certain time, then they had better be there. If they borrow a few pesos (dollars, pounds, whatever the currency might be), then they'd better pay it back on or before when they said they would.
There are dozens if not hundreds of examples of trust building exercises. You have to put the person you are dating through a lot of those tests to see how they perform. Note, there is no such thing as a perfect human. However if the person is late by ten minutes to an hour for each date, that says a lot. The excuse they use may or may not have anything to do with your judgement of them and a bad habit of being late ( or maybe it doesn't bother you at all, it is your choice to set your priorities where you want them).
Maybe the person you are dating is the best chef in the world ( to you) and loves to cook. Then does it matter to you if he is late for dates??? only you can answer that question.
I don't think I can say anything more right now. If my answers confused you, please feel free to tell again what you are talking about, and let me know about it. That is the question I see in front of me now though.
There are dozens if not hundreds of examples of trust building exercises. You have to put the person you are dating through a lot of those tests to see how they perform. Note, there is no such thing as a perfect human. However if the person is late by ten minutes to an hour for each date, that says a lot. The excuse they use may or may not have anything to do with your judgement of them and a bad habit of being late ( or maybe it doesn't bother you at all, it is your choice to set your priorities where you want them).
Maybe the person you are dating is the best chef in the world ( to you) and loves to cook. Then does it matter to you if he is late for dates??? only you can answer that question.
I don't think I can say anything more right now. If my answers confused you, please feel free to tell again what you are talking about, and let me know about it. That is the question I see in front of me now though.
adille
Dec 6 '16
Magandang buhay!!!
Well said BillyHill!!
I got also the same ideas after reading your post.
Thanks for your input/sharing your thoughts and ideas..
GOD BLESS!!
CLEVE
Oct 7 '21
HOW WE LISTEN I BELIEVE IS THE KEY.....I SEE MOST PEOPLE WHEN THEY LISTEN ARE
TRYING TO SEE THE SENSE THE SPEAKER MAKE'S TO HIMSELF......AND NOT THE
SENSE THE SPEAKER MAKES TO HERSELF.....BIG DISCONNECT.....WHEN WE SHARE
WHAT WE THINK AND FEEL WE WANT PEOPLE TO SEE OUR POINT OF VIEW........YOU
CAN NOT SEE ME WHEN YOU FOCUS ON YOURSELF.....THIS IS SO SIMPLE YET SO
PROFOUND.....THERE IS A WAY TO FIX THE DISCONNECT ITS CALLED IMAGO
DIALOGUE.....CHECK IT OUT......
1- MIRRORING
2-VALIDATE
3-EMPATHIZE
The Forum post is edited by CLEVE Oct 7 '21
