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Timothy58
Aug 21 '16
I, for one, find it real hard to trust dating sites. Almost got burned once, so it's hard for me to trust these things. I want to find a good loving person to spend the rest of my days with. But now find myself not trusting people I text. Wish there was a better way. Meeting that significant other, would be great, in person. Then you know who you are talking and texting to. Almost sent a woman $ 300.00. because I trusted her thru texting for weeks. Thought I was sure of this lady. Then when I told her, "if must have the money, to get here, I'll bring it to you in person." ,She got real nasty. Saying I don't trust her and cussing me. Totally changed her attitude. She was trying to scam me. Please people! Be careful! I hate to see anyone hurt or taken advantage of. These people prey on your good intentions, and on your heart. Ask for proof. Ask them to send a pic with their finger in their nose. You won't get that pic if the pics are fake. Tell them you insist on video chat. They won't and can't do that if they aren't real. At least with a video chat, you know who you are talking to, right? Anyways, that's what this forum is all about. So we, in this community can help each other keep away from those kind of people. I'm a lover, not a fighter. Don't want a fighter either. I want someone I can love. That will give me love in return. I don't expect perfection, just honesty. Happy hunting and I wish all great luck.
Moderator billyHill
Aug 21 '16
Hey Timothy58,
you did well. it is a proven fact that as many as 90% of profiles on some dating sites are fake ones. The fact is that you should not trust anyone you meet on the internet until after they earn your trust. That can take months or longer of time in reality.
In the digital age we have now things like video chats are a must have tool in our toolbox to verify what someone else says. And there are things we must do to make sure you are not talking to a Virtual Reality (VR) image instead of a real person while on a video chat.
I certainly hope much of what you published in this topic about yourself is also in your profile, because not everyone reads this forum.
you did well. it is a proven fact that as many as 90% of profiles on some dating sites are fake ones. The fact is that you should not trust anyone you meet on the internet until after they earn your trust. That can take months or longer of time in reality.
In the digital age we have now things like video chats are a must have tool in our toolbox to verify what someone else says. And there are things we must do to make sure you are not talking to a Virtual Reality (VR) image instead of a real person while on a video chat.
I certainly hope much of what you published in this topic about yourself is also in your profile, because not everyone reads this forum.
Timothy58
Aug 21 '16
Hey Billy hill, thanks for you reply. It's good to see that the word is getting out. I really hate to see people hurt by the misuse of what should be a good thing. If only people would all be honest, our world would indeed be a great place to live in. Unfortunately, today, that almighty dollar has really ruined our society. Be careful in your search for real happiness. As you know, it's far too easy to get burned...
robn
Aug 29 '16
If you do meet somebody online and do happen to build a relationship there should be no exchange of money until you meet if the person can't get to you then you go to them
Monica40
Aug 31 '16
I want to find someone special to form a serious relationship.
I am Venezuelan , my English is not very good
I am Venezuelan , my English is not very good
Monica40
Aug 31 '16
to me, someone was a point to play with me and cheat me why I do not trust a lot, and it is that perhaps the reason for any Leave Much closer.I hope to get over it and get someone honest and good principles
Moderator billyHill
Sep 9 '16
I agree with some of what you said, Tony. That doesn't mean you are wrong, or that I am right, it means we are different and that is a good thing. We all have to find what works for us as individuals.
I wouldn't reveal my real ID to anyone I have not met in person, face to face. Therefore I don't think it is fair of me to ask anyone else to reveal their personal info online to a prospective partner. Making a simple sign with a "Hi Tony I am bluemoon232" in front of you while on video suffices to prove you have a real person, not a virtual reality (VR) software image in the video. I believe that if someone asked me for real ID info before we met in person (even without name or ID #'s) it would scare me into thinking this person was after my identity, or to impersonate me somehow.
If you get to the point of meeting someone face to face and in person, then get their real name and if you have to do background checks, or whatever "due diligence" you need to do to make yourself happy. it just isn't worth it until after you have spent a week or more together side by side and see if it might work to do anything else, IMO.
While you might be on to something with National Anthems, well known information, etc part of your statement I think that in itself is very broad to assume everyone knows stuff like that. I think it is on track with the right ideas, but may need adjusting for individuals.
Your statement about the culture(s) is 100% accurate. For instance- My wife's family of origin lives on a remote island in the Philippines. They have internet access, but zero television reception and at best spotty radio communications. They don't really know much of what is going on in the rest of the world, only what is in front of them. There have only recently ( in the past 2 or 3 decades) been schools there, and since it is an agricultural community most kids work on family farms and are home schooled (if any). therefore they know practically nothing about National interests. They did know about the new President and voted in the last elections.
I wouldn't reveal my real ID to anyone I have not met in person, face to face. Therefore I don't think it is fair of me to ask anyone else to reveal their personal info online to a prospective partner. Making a simple sign with a "Hi Tony I am bluemoon232" in front of you while on video suffices to prove you have a real person, not a virtual reality (VR) software image in the video. I believe that if someone asked me for real ID info before we met in person (even without name or ID #'s) it would scare me into thinking this person was after my identity, or to impersonate me somehow.
If you get to the point of meeting someone face to face and in person, then get their real name and if you have to do background checks, or whatever "due diligence" you need to do to make yourself happy. it just isn't worth it until after you have spent a week or more together side by side and see if it might work to do anything else, IMO.
While you might be on to something with National Anthems, well known information, etc part of your statement I think that in itself is very broad to assume everyone knows stuff like that. I think it is on track with the right ideas, but may need adjusting for individuals.
Your statement about the culture(s) is 100% accurate. For instance- My wife's family of origin lives on a remote island in the Philippines. They have internet access, but zero television reception and at best spotty radio communications. They don't really know much of what is going on in the rest of the world, only what is in front of them. There have only recently ( in the past 2 or 3 decades) been schools there, and since it is an agricultural community most kids work on family farms and are home schooled (if any). therefore they know practically nothing about National interests. They did know about the new President and voted in the last elections.
. ...Ask for the person in question to A) hold an official form of ID and covering personal information but clearly showing the State/Country of Issue and the Photo, snap a picture and send. and/or B) a recent Utility bill i.e. electric, gas, water with Street name & number and Account number "covered" , but showing the Date, persons First Name, City, State, Country ... Snap a picture and send. Just think about it for a moment ...
If you will be on " instant messenger or chat" with someone in another country and have " doubts ", ask a question about the country that should be able to be answered immediately without hesitation - Be sure that YOU know the answer FIRST i.e. What is your National Anthem and give me the first line. It's doubtful that some scammer in Lagos will be able to recite Deutschland Uber Alles or My Country tis of Thee on demand. And, for what it's worth, if in contact with someone in a foreign country remember that " customs" are different. What's OK in the USA may not be in ... Example, don't send pics of or if on video, make the American hand gesture A-OK to a Russian or Middle Eastern. If you are a Texas Aggie fan don't flash the Horns to an Italian... If you are interested enough in someone in another country, take a few and learn about their culture. Its actually interesting.
