What men really see... | Forum

Ladies, it may come as a surprise to hear this but men have a different set of eyes to you. Each morning when you gaze into the mirror you may focus on that slightly yellow or crocked tooth or the little line where your bra presses in causing what you call ‘back fat’. Maybe you see your knees that look a little knobbly or your toes look a bit funny.. the list goes on. Well you know what you man is seeing? He is seeing a woman he would love to get busy with right this instant and maybe sooner! When you are single and have too much time to study your ‘imperfections’, you can start thinking a whole lot of silly stuff.

If you were to ask most guys what their favourite part of your body was, the first thing that would jump into their mind would probably be chest, legs or butt. It is unfortunate but they do actually think like that lol. They may however not dare give that answer so will instead say something like your shoulders or the cute dimples in your back. Here's the thing girls” Men see your body in three ways and it is nothing like the way you see yourself.

That's right. They notice the things about you that make you uniquely womanly. They notice your butt, your breasts and your legs. They notice your hair and how you walk in heels. They are so focussed on that stuff that your bingo wings or cellulite really doesn’t enter the equation. Just like those tiny wrinkles on your forehead. THEY DON’T NOTICE so stop worrying.

The gap in your teeth that has bothered you for years is actually something he finds pretty sweet. Your muffin top? They have not noticed it because they are so focussed on your behind which to him is the best thing this side of the moon. You think your lips are too thin… he just sees your smile and the way your eyes light up at the same time. He is probably more likely to be thinking of kissing them than thinking they look too thin. All those things you don’t like about yourself and think make you hideous and ugly are things he sees in a totally different way. He sees things that make you uniquely YOU and he wants all of it!

Having made the points above, you do however have the power to mess things up entirely. All the points above apply mainly in the early days of the relationship but as time goes by things can change and often this is your own fault. If you constantly go on about things you dislike about yourself, he will indeed start to notice.. You are not only beating yourself up about things he has not yet even noticed. You are also drawing his attention to them and tearing down his first impressions of you. Saying things like “I am too fat” while he is thinking “I really want to stroke those legs” can change his desires.

On this point, I do have some good news for you. It works really well in reverse. Show him those new nails or how you have been toning up at the gym and he will love it. Even show a bit of flesh (even the butts you are not so fond of). He will end up wanting you even more.

He will of course be attracted to the women in glossy magazines or the gorgeous actresses in Hollywood movies but having said that what he would much prefer to have is a living, breathing, fragrant woman sitting next to him at a restaurant. ‘Perfection’ can go hang. You are up close and personal and although he may have a passing fancy for fantasy women in movies and magazines, you are REAL and he would take that over a figment of his imagination every time.

So it is time to celebrate your body and let him join you in doing so. You should of course invest time and effort into staying in shape and being fit and healthy. The main thing is to remember that you deserve all the fabulous man attention he is willing to throw at you.

(excerpt from Aunty Acid's blog)