What is an acceptable age gap?
Age Difference (Gap) | Forum
that was funny but i guess for others it would be good!
Moderator spectrumAU
May 11 '15
I have lived with a guy that was 20 years older than me... but what about the other way around? Is it okay for me (woman) to date or have a boyfriend that is 20 years younger?
What do you think? Have you tried it?
AmeliaCastillo
May 16 '15
My ex was 8 yrs. younger than me but nobody noticed unless I told them. When guys reached the age of 50 they are considered matured enough, so the age gap shows only on the physical aspect. But if the ladies (and most of us do) are taking care of ourselves, body and mind, who's going to spot the difference?
ladypinay
Jul 14 '15
I still want somebody close my age. Age matters when it come to maturity and interests. But five to ten years for me is still okay but not 20 years.
Admin Marisa
Jul 14 '15
Age DOES matter, and those who say the opposite are either repeating clichés or are being up to something not very good, like visa seeking, where age obviously doesn't matter as long as they get their green card. When I see an overseas youngster seeking marriage or serious relationship while saying that age and distance doesn't matter I delete such profile, as I know he is going to mass-mail middle-aged western ladies and seek immigration. 
Admin Marisa
Jul 14 '15
same with women, wind. I just mentioned men (and actually posted in this topic) because just few a minutes before posting I booted one little male skunk like that. But it's no different with females. If they mass-mail men old enough to be their fathers or even grandfathers - THEY ARE OUT. 
Moderator spectrumAU
Jul 21 '15
That is a different subject to this thread but we can start one on truth in profiles.
jpinder1087
Aug 19 '15
for me it probably is up to and depends on what the guy or girl themselves want. some girls will actuall y put in profiles i want a man whose above 35 years or this age etc.some dont mind the age gap. some due
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Kimo
Oct 29 '15
Well at 50 I wouldn't go out with a girl the same age as my daughter who is 22 - would be like going out with my daughter - 5 to 7 years more or less is ok but 20-30 less not really lol
Filbeauty
Nov 7 '15
I say age matters when I see a young girl dating a man that looks like her dad or grandpa. I cannot imagine how she can kiss and make love with her grandpa looking partner. I'm sorry but I cant believe that its love what they feel for each other as what most claimed it is. Maybe for some hmmm... not sure. I have the same idea with women dating a man much younger than her.
A good old age friend of mine had told me that when he dates a young woman, they both get the benefit from each other. He gives her the financial security that she needs and she gives him the young- feeling effect that he wants. He feels younger again and not as old as when he was with his wife. He said, men mostly cannot do that in their own country because they are being looked down by their women as DOM and that's why they are looking at other countries where they are free to have these young and beautiful ladies they would want to have.
Filbeauty
Nov 8 '15
Wind090 my friend does not buy love becoz there is no " love " at all. It is just simply dating and companionship. Its not prostitution either. Financial needs meaning buying her the things she wants or paying her rent.
AmeliaCastillo
Nov 11 '15
There are many ways to kill a cat, so they say. I think some ladies fall for older men because they are looking for that "father image", most of them products of broken homes. it is a known fact that daughters are closer to the father than the mother. Same goes for men who take older partners because they look at the inner qualities, most probably the care they get from their mothers. men are grown-up boys and are more attached to the mother. That's what they call Oedipal complex.
Either way, as long as there is love, trust and respect any relation can survive regardless of the age difference. And it takes the right amount of maturity to cope with these.
AmeliaCastillo
Nov 12 '15
The reasons I've stated is based on the assumption that there is LOVE involved. But the question is vague, there could be love or some other ulterior motive in making the decision.As to the girls who felt attraction to horses, i think it's because when they ride the horse they get sexually excited. That's the reason why women in the middle east and some african countries have their women circumcised. Similarly, I've read a story about a lad who grew up as a slave and will remain a slave for life.Because of this he is not free or entitled to get a woman for a wife so to release his sex urge he ended up #censored#ing a mule or a horse. All these stories and practice came into existence because of LUST.
When I opined on the query raised I presumed that Love is involved in deciding a relationship with an age difference, not for some other reasons. And since the question is broad, there could be several correct opinions.
Sure, a fat bank account is a very attractive quality for some ambitious young ladies who wanted to pursue their dreams of luxury fast and easy without breaking a bone. It all depends now on their values!
AmeliaCastillo
Nov 15 '15
When you fall in love with a person, you won't know for what reason, how it happened and your eyes are closed to the flaws and imperfections. There's some kind of magical feeling and attachment that makes your heart overrule your head. To quote the poets saying "Fools rush in where wise men never goes" or "Love is blind and lovers cannot see" aptly describes it.
So if a person is not capable of loving somebody with a big age gap that's also good as saying you cannot love a handicapped person and that your love is based on the physical attributes of your intended person. Everybody gets old anyway but not everybody is endowed with a beautiful loving heart that never fades.
AmeliaCastillo
Nov 16 '15
Ha ha ha! How can you say that "maybe you're not capable to feel what we call love" when you have just described exactly the feeling itself? In short, love is caring about your loved ones more than you do for yourself. They sacrifice and even give their lives in the name of love, whether it's romantic love or love for country.
Now the "persistence of our species" as you mentioned could be procreation which is one of the reasons for getting a partner in life. I said one of the reasons and not the sole reason because it could also be for companionship and some for the selfish reasons of having somebody care for them in their "golden age" (that you could say could be some reason for the "may-december affairs" or older age gap.
The bottom line is - it's not the age gap that determines the decision but the motive or the needs that you want to satisfy. We all have different mind set and of course, you do what you want and what you think is not only good but satisfying for you.
AmeliaCastillo
Nov 17 '15
Yes, i agree. Responsibility comes with everything we say and do. That's one of the traits of people who behaves like a human being should, as you say. Unfortunately, not all human beings are responsible enough, depending on their age, upbringing and set of values.
As to love of country, I'm proud to be a citizen of my country because I am enjoying the freedom that my ancestors gave their life for to fight the colonialist invaders who tried to suppressed and conquer it.
So going back to the query as to a big age gap as a deterrent or consideration in making a decision, these are relevant factors that have to be considered too because there is more than what meets the eye!
