Ok, I found and joined this site when i first suspected i was being scammed by a supposed US soldier deployed in Nigeria, and i dont know if anyone talks about this on here or not, but found out today it all true, he hooked my ass, hook, line and sinker. Just makes me wonder what this world is coming to, when u cant even join a dating site, which ive only recently started doing myself, period, and not get hurt in some way. just saying. All and any comments welcome. Yall have a great nite, now.
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Moderator spectrumAU
Jun 22 '15
Jamie, most of us here have been in the same position and found DnM the same way. We understand how it feels and that it takes time to recover and trust again.
You can report your scammer at romancescam.com , useing his email address and photo's to warn others.
Moderator billyHill
Jun 23 '15
Yes Jamie, it is a fact. the truth is that on the internet you really can't believe what anyone says ( with few exceptions), and you need to double or triple check facts to prove them true. As opposed to assume they are true until proven otherwise.
Trust is earned, not given is the bottom line. As Louise said, most of us on this site got here because of being scammed out of money or worse, our heart strings were pulled ( or both). Romance scammers are the lowest form of life on earth I believe.
If you want to talk about any topic, feel free Jamie (within site guidelines, anyhow... found here: https://datingnmore.com/site/forum/topic/92?page=1#post-573 ). We just ask you do your best to try and categorize it. If we think it belongs somewhere else, we'll move it and let you know it was moved.
Trust is earned, not given is the bottom line. As Louise said, most of us on this site got here because of being scammed out of money or worse, our heart strings were pulled ( or both). Romance scammers are the lowest form of life on earth I believe.
If you want to talk about any topic, feel free Jamie (within site guidelines, anyhow... found here: https://datingnmore.com/site/forum/topic/92?page=1#post-573 ). We just ask you do your best to try and categorize it. If we think it belongs somewhere else, we'll move it and let you know it was moved.
Moderator spectrumAU
Jun 23 '15
I hope you have now stopped all contact with him and have blocked him from contacting you. Do NOT speak to him again for any reason... even to tell him what a 'sh1t' he is.
Know that you are not alone, we have all been there. He has done this same thing to many and will continue to do so. You can only report him on romancescam.com and post his photos and contact info there to warn others.
Try to remember that you fell in love with a photo and an ideal. That photo is not the man you've been talking to, in fact if you search his photo on romancescam you may find he has already been reported by others and you can add your story.
It takes time to get over the hurt but it will happen and you'll learn to trust again and you'll come out the other side a much smarter cookie 
Moderator billyHill
Jun 23 '15
bajangirl,
In addition to the advice Louise gave to you, let me also offer some.
Be on the watch for other new requests in your email box, friends list, and what ever form(s) of communication you used with your scammer. Very likely it is just him again using a different personality to try and scam you again. The simple way of keeping yourself from harm is to just delete all emails, friend requests, text messages, etc without even opening them. Eventually these criminals will go away, after they see their target is not responding to them anymore. They will find another (possible) victim and move on.
If it isn't him, then it will be someone in his criminal "gang" that he has passed your information along to. Especially be on the lookout for what we call "recovery scams". These are typically emails that effectively say "we know you were scammed, and we can get your money back ( for a fee). You will wind up paying the fee, but will never see your stolen money come back to you.
In fact, it would be a real good thing to create at least 2 additional email boxes. Tell your friends and family about one of them, that you are changing addresses. The 2nd one use for business / professional / banking use only. And let the 3rd one ( your original email address) become the one you give out to strangers and unknown websites until after they have gained your trust. That way you really don't even have to check your old email box very often. And you will have most of the junk mail going into that original email box. Its really a win/ win when you think about it.
I do use words that paint you (us) to be victimized, because that is what you (we) were.. I also use the were instead of "are" because like Louise said, "you'll come out the other side a much smarter cookie". These low lifes are professional con men, we were victims. There is no reason to beat yourself up because you had the wonderful quality of trust.
It may take some time to realize a good balance between apprehension and trust again, but if you want to do it, it will get done in whatever time you need to get it done in.
In addition to the advice Louise gave to you, let me also offer some.
Be on the watch for other new requests in your email box, friends list, and what ever form(s) of communication you used with your scammer. Very likely it is just him again using a different personality to try and scam you again. The simple way of keeping yourself from harm is to just delete all emails, friend requests, text messages, etc without even opening them. Eventually these criminals will go away, after they see their target is not responding to them anymore. They will find another (possible) victim and move on.
If it isn't him, then it will be someone in his criminal "gang" that he has passed your information along to. Especially be on the lookout for what we call "recovery scams". These are typically emails that effectively say "we know you were scammed, and we can get your money back ( for a fee). You will wind up paying the fee, but will never see your stolen money come back to you.
In fact, it would be a real good thing to create at least 2 additional email boxes. Tell your friends and family about one of them, that you are changing addresses. The 2nd one use for business / professional / banking use only. And let the 3rd one ( your original email address) become the one you give out to strangers and unknown websites until after they have gained your trust. That way you really don't even have to check your old email box very often. And you will have most of the junk mail going into that original email box. Its really a win/ win when you think about it.
I do use words that paint you (us) to be victimized, because that is what you (we) were.. I also use the were instead of "are" because like Louise said, "you'll come out the other side a much smarter cookie". These low lifes are professional con men, we were victims. There is no reason to beat yourself up because you had the wonderful quality of trust.
It may take some time to realize a good balance between apprehension and trust again, but if you want to do it, it will get done in whatever time you need to get it done in.
