Hi and welcome, jfchandler67. I certainly hope you included much of if not all of the description you gave above in the essay portion of your profile here. Things like that can make a big difference to those that actually read your profile, not just look at your picture.
The general way of looking for friends is to use the search or members buttons, enter in the criteria you are looking for then see what the results of the search are. if something does appear in the results then visit the profile(s) and send some type of "notice me" such as a virtual gift or even a Private Message (PM) if you like what you see in their profile. Since we don't have scammers here (or at least nearly zero) you will be likely to find that there are not dozens or hundreds of screen names going after you like dogs to fresh meat. You will be better off finding people yourself as opposed to waiting for someone to contact you.
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