"Plural marriage is a marital practice in which one spouse is already married to someone else. In short, it can be defined as a bigamous or polygamous union. The origin of plural marriage can be traced back to the nineteenth-century practice of a man marrying more than one wife."
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In my opinion:
For many love equates to a sense of rewarding give and take. The idea that the receiver of the love is "worth it" or "Worthy". For others they recognise that love is somehow deeper. that liking someone isn't necessary to love them. Perhaps, a mean uncle or an abusive spouse. i love my sister but she drives me batshit.
These are both common and acceptable interpretations of love.
Let's examine love from an evolutionary aspect. The idea that a mother loves her kids. from an evolutionary aspect why did she evolve to love. the young of every species is favored food for another. So in order for primates to want to risk their fleshy goodness to protect the young, Love had to evolve to keep the species alive. Men had to be attracted to and love a woman or why would he risk himself. In both cases we see a common thread. Protection and risk taking. When you love someone you want to take risks or demonstrate your ability to manage risk(showing off). You will also find that you are willing to protect from harm (even by lying) those we love. The "will" to protect is so strong in fact that bargains are offered "take me instead" even when there is no chance of managing risk.
When I give you my love, what I mean is that I will accept personal risk to my well being in order to perpetuate your sense of safety
and family::::
When we think of families most of us conjure thoughts of brothers, sisters, moms and dads, grandparents, aunts n uncles etc. We some times refer to these as blood relatives. we make statements like "blood is thicker than water". we tend to think of family in terms of AUTOMATIC LOVE. These are your people after all and they will shelter you no matter what. The evolution of the family unit comes out of the evolution of love. Brothers and sisters love each other because in numbers primates defend against predators better. Brothers and sisters become aunts and uncles and eventually grandparents. This is a fairly easy logical integration. In this family unit the most likely to take risk are the males. Men from an evolution standpoint are the most expendable. once they have sown their seed which can happen in teens as well as late in life they are in fact quite useless to evolution. This is why men evolved to get larger, so they could serve as gatherers and laborers(another topic). The family unit, genetically works with as few as one male. It is evolutionarily significant for men to love multiple women and to prefer their company. whereas a woman may really only need to love a few men for the family unit to proceed. It would have been more common for men to have multiple mates than for woman to have multiple mates (under non violent terms) another topic. Monogamy for a woman is therefore evolutionarily normal while the same is not true for a man. Morals yet another topic evolved to propagate these standards when emotions conflict. statistically across the world more cultures have polygamy than monogamy.. look it up! keep in mind that most of the world is not christian or modern. In a healthy polyamorous relationship the women are the center of importance not the man. While it is true that a man often "rules the house" all his duty is to his wives. He must keep them satisfied and protected. A lot to ask of a single human being. Whereas the women of the family do focus on childbearing in this case, modern instances of plural marriage encourage careers/education as well or instead. modern medicine and decreased child mortality rates and lessened the reliance on child rearing for the family unit. and allowed us to incorporate the idea of an age of consent for girls. As well we have increased the years of a woman's life which childbirth is possible to allow for full careers first and children second. Why then is monogamy more predominant in modern countries? The answer is, it isn't high divorce rates, infidelity, and deadbeat dads with multiple "baby mommas" are in fact the norm. this is in fact the DEGENERATION of the family unit. or an evolutionary collapse of the need for a family unit. The fact is our biology and evolution depends on polygamy. and the lack of predators has reduced the need for family units. I do not accept this decline in family unit. I encourage all i know to protect the family unit weather it be monogamy or polygamy. but please protect the value of the family unit. our very social order depends on it. without the family unit the "tribe" breaks down, without tribes cities break down, without cities nations break down and so does civilization. My friends. so long as the family unit is allowed to deteriorate our race is at threat of decline and eventual extinction. we must all pick up where evolution leaves off and protect the progress in mankind so far.
I would think given the nature of mankind, how we evolved into family units and the shear volume of dysfunctional monogamous marriages that only polygamy makes sense
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