hi and welcome to DnM, Stevenj. Chances are good you will get more responses from doing member searches, reading profiles, then sending a PM (Private message) to individuals.
It also doesn't hurt to get your name out there like you did posting here in the forum, asking and answering poll questions. Voting and commenting on photos and videos or uploading your own photos and videos. Joining a group or more (or creating one if you think there are not enough). Post comments on peoples' walls. Send gifts, and there is probably more that can be done than what I have mentioned above.
Good luck on finding what you seek.