There are several relationship killers that people regularly do. 1/ A marriage certificate is not a certificate of ownership. We are still individuals with our own destinies to fulfill. 2/ Our partner is not responsible for our happiness, we are! 3/ Our role in the relationship is to fulfill our OWN life, if in the process we can assist our partner to fulfill their own life then that is the value of partnership. Think about it, if we feel that everything we do is for the other person at the expense of our own personal goals then we will soon look to another person who will help us to fulfill our destiny, true? 4/ Becoming complacent and not appreciating the qualities that our partner brings into the relationship. 5/ Doing thoughtless actions which you would never have considered doing when you were first dating. 6/If you would feel angry if your partner was verbally or physically abusive towards you then guess what, they feel the same when you do it to them!
Remember, the sign of a solid relationship is when you both feel comfortable passing gas in each others presence, even after Chili beans!