I wonder what your definition of "not a lot of traffic on this site" is, needafriend... if you look here :
https://datingnmore.com/site/forum/topic/237 there are roughly 50,000 + visitors each week ( in my book, that is a lot).
Sadly, the forums here are not as active as they used to be, this is very true. I'd really like to know what happened to them. We used to have a much larger crowd of active forum participants, and the discussions were rather lively at times.
Not a lot of forum activity is the reason I suggested that you use the search function, then send a PM to those you find appealing. You can't be guaranteed an answer, but for sure you will wait a much longer time if you wait for someone to write to you.
Also, you will get a lot more responses from people if you upload a picture of yourself ( an Avatar).
Most real people don't even consider responding to a faceless name, only scammers find an age bracket that is appealing, then write to anyone in that age bracket hoping for a response.